Life is full of choices. In fact, I cannot think of a time in which we are not faced with choices – to keep going or quit, to venture down a new path, to do what is easy or to do what is necessary, to name a few.
In my life, I have made some decisions that I’m not proud of. There are many forks in the road I have been faced with where I wish I had chosen better for myself and others. There are choices I have made that negatively impacted those around me, both in circumstances where the consequences were known, and those where they were unknown at the time the choice was made. Those choices are not ones I’ve been proud of, not ones I stand by, and I have carried those repercussions in my consciousness as a reminder of who I never want to be again.
Not all controversially made choices carry regret, though. The last several months, I have been faced with a number of choices, and in each of those situations, I made the decision that was right for me. I made the decisions knowing there would be consequences. I made them knowing that not everyone would understand or agree.
Above all, I made them knowing that I was supporting my truth. I stand by the choices that formed my current path. They were my choices to make. Every one of them was made with the best of intentions, and served a purpose.
I am very much looking forward to seeing where the choices I’ve made the past several months lead me in my life. I also acknowledge that they are not decisions that all those close to me would make or agree with. I respect that. I respect that greatly. And, I do so acknowledging the potential responses.
I know that life always has a way of working itself out. Moreover, life works in it’s own time. The way things work out, however, is not always the way we think it should. As individuals, it is only to our detriment to get hung up on how we want things to be, how we think they should be.
Perception is key to any situation. Emotions can cloud perception greatly, and emotion-based perception is toxic. As someone who has made decisions in the past based on emotion, I know how destructive it can be. Bitterness and anger love company, and those who choose to put those emotions out into the universe will only attract more of the same. Emotion also plays a role in how we react to reality.
Perception and reality are two dramatically different states of mind. Perception, especially clouded with emotion, can and will prolong the amount of time someone spends hung up on something.
Something else that is key in life is knowing that there always comes a time to let go. Though what that looks like can vary greatly depending on the situation, what I’m talking about is letting go of the emotional bondage of a situation. Again, emotions are toxic. I learned that lesson in an embarrassingly long amount of time, but I’m thankful I learned it when I did. I’m also thankful for the consistently supportive, honest people I’ve had (and still have) around me.
None of this means you shouldn’t feel, nor do I mean that I am (or suggest others become) someone lacking compassion or empathy. Let go of what no longer serves you. Let go of what’s holding you back. Let go of what was or could have been (I want to say here, I’m not talking about grieving a loved one after death, I’m talking about situational grief).
The only one that holds you back is yourself. Don’t be a prisoner to perception.